I spoke to my great aunt last night. I’m very close to her. She’s been somewhat sympathetic, but is very much of the old school, “but they’re faaaaamily” line of thought. I told her about the situation as it unfolded, but emphasized that I didn’t expect her to choose sides and was happy to hear she’s still in contact with them. Continue reading “Uh-oh, Looks Like a New Campaign.”
Hello, I’m an early 40sish adult daughter of 2 alcoholics. And it’s very likely my mother, who no longer drinks, is a narcissist or at least has narcissistic tendencies. My brother is an alcoholic in recovery, as are my sister in law and my stepdad. I’ve been reading ACOA literature since the mid 80s. I would always skip over the scapegoat parts because scapegoats divert attention from the dysfunction by acting as a lightening rod for criticism and punishment by acting out. They get in trouble with the law, in school and the family focuses in on that instead of dealing with the alcoholism or other dysfunction.