Ok, as some of you may know, I’m not all that fond of the “forgiveness police” who decide it’s up to them to dictate to the people who have been wronged as to how and when to forgive. Or that people should forget or give people multiple second chances to people who will prove time and tim again and again and again that they will only kick you in the teeth pretty much every chance they get. That said, I think the most recent episode of American Horror Story: Asylum did an excellent job of illustrating the pitfalls of faux/forced forgiveness. Don’t read any more of this if you haven’t watched this episode, as it contains spoilers Continue reading “Faux/Forced Forgiveness”
Karyl McBride, who authored, Will I Ever Be Good Enough: Healing Daughters of Narcissitic Mothers, wrote about the holidays and the perfection instilled by Narcissitic parents. Continue reading “Another Good Holiday Read”
One of my friends posted this and I think it’s really helpful/useful for all of us dealing with No Contact and how some family members try to use the holidays to waltz on in, with no change in their behavior which led to No Contact:
When I heard the tragic news about Mary Kennedy, I also remembered her arrests for impaired driving. I noted the Kennedys & Richardsons trading blame. But it appears BPD may have been a factor: Continue reading “BPD in the Media”
I’ve written about my inner heckler (the voice programmed by my mother) before. After some more run ins with her, I’ve decided to write a letter to her.
Dear Inner Heckler,
WTF is your problem? Why are you so mean and nasty? You are exhausting and obnoxious to live with . You are miserable and make everyone around you miserable as well. All you ever do is criticize and you overreact to everything. I feel exhausted after listening to you. Most of the time, you don’t even know what you’re talking about and you’re wrong.
I am hereby serving you with a notice of eviction. Get the hell out my head and stay out!! You’re not wanted here.
As I was re-reading this post on the Narcissists Suck blog, after referring to it in my previous post, it helped me pull together some thoughts and feelings that had been rolling around in my head. Continue reading “You’re Too Good to Me, No Really!”
I was reading a news story when I came across this link of Top Ten signs You’re in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship. Out of the 10 slides used to illustrate abusive behavior, all either feature an adult man as abuser and/or an adult woman as victim. It uses masculine nouns/pronouns for the abuser and feminine for the victim. The NEXT TO LAST slide acknowledges that women might also be abusers. Continue reading “The Myth that Women Don’t Abuse People”