Ok, as some of you may know, I’m not all that fond of the “forgiveness police” who decide it’s up to them to dictate to the people who have been wronged as to how and when to forgive. Or that people should forget or give people multiple second chances to people who will prove time and tim again and again and again that they will only kick you in the teeth pretty much every chance they get. That said, I think the most recent episode of American Horror Story: Asylum did an excellent job of illustrating the pitfalls of faux/forced forgiveness. Don’t read any more of this if you haven’t watched this episode, as it contains spoilers Continue reading “Faux/Forced Forgiveness”
Karyl McBride, who authored, Will I Ever Be Good Enough: Healing Daughters of Narcissitic Mothers, wrote about the holidays and the perfection instilled by Narcissitic parents. Continue reading “Another Good Holiday Read”
One of my friends posted this and I think it’s really helpful/useful for all of us dealing with No Contact and how some family members try to use the holidays to waltz on in, with no change in their behavior which led to No Contact:
‘Tis (or has been) evaluation season at work. Sometimes I get very nice comments in email from people I do work for at my job. I’ll include them as part of my evaluation. This year I received one calling me a “godsend” and another a “genius”. I couldn’t bring myself to include them in my evaluation, though I did eventually end up passing them along to my boss as praise for the department (that’s how I worded the email where I forwarded them. Continue reading “Mirror, Mirror on the Wall”
As a follow up to an earlier post about feelings, I thought I’d share an anecdote. I’ve been working with a different therapist than the one mentioned in that article since shortly after I wrote it. That whole story and how to go about looking for a new therapist is a post in and of itself, which I plan to write one of these days. The therapist I’m currently working with is in a building which houses a lot of medically related offices, including a dentist. As I was waiting for the elevator, I saw a boy with his mom. I’m not the best at guessing kids’ ages, I’m guessing he’s around 4, give or take a year. He was holding a balloon from the dentist’s office tied to a new toothbrush. What struck me was the conversation he and his mom were having. Continue reading “Feelings Part II”
When I heard the tragic news about Mary Kennedy, I also remembered her arrests for impaired driving. I noted the Kennedys & Richardsons trading blame. But it appears BPD may have been a factor: Continue reading “BPD in the Media”
I’ve written about my inner heckler (the voice programmed by my mother) before. After some more run ins with her, I’ve decided to write a letter to her.
Dear Inner Heckler,
WTF is your problem? Why are you so mean and nasty? You are exhausting and obnoxious to live with . You are miserable and make everyone around you miserable as well. All you ever do is criticize and you overreact to everything. I feel exhausted after listening to you. Most of the time, you don’t even know what you’re talking about and you’re wrong.
I am hereby serving you with a notice of eviction. Get the hell out my head and stay out!! You’re not wanted here.