I was reading a news story when I came across this link of Top Ten signs You’re in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship. Out of the 10 slides used to illustrate abusive behavior, all either feature an adult man as abuser and/or an adult woman as victim. It uses masculine nouns/pronouns for the abuser and feminine for the victim. The NEXT TO LAST slide acknowledges that women might also be abusers. Continue reading “The Myth that Women Don’t Abuse People”
A good friend of mine posted a photo on Facebook with a sign of that famous saying, “Holding a Grudge is Like Letting Someone Live Rent Free in your head.” I jokingly replied that some people are harder to evict than others. Which got me thinking about the expression and all of the area in between it.
It may seem at times like I go much easier on my father than my mother when it comes to the past. This may seem unfair because after all, he contributed to the discord, violence and disharmony at home when I was a child. Both parents were alcoholics while I was growing up. Continue reading “Two Standards?”
Sorry, if I get a chance to use a bad 70s song as a title, I’m going for it. Don’t try to stop me! 🙂 I have been doing a lot of thought/work on feelings as part of therapy lately. So feelings, both mine & others are on my mind a lot lately. Continue reading “Feelings, Nothing More (or less) than Feelings”
The Mayor of Milwaukee was leaving the state fair this weekend when he came across a woman screaming for help/to call 911. As he did, he was attacked by the man who had been threatening the woman. He was in an argument with his baby’s grandmother. For his bravery, the mayor was beaten with the man’s fists and a metal stick. Thankfully, he is recovering and there were no serious brain injuries. Continue reading “Families in Denial”
A few weeks ago a woman driving a minivan with 5 children (her own 2, plus 3 nieces) in it collided with a SUV with 3 men on the Taconic Parkway. The minivan was going the wrong way in the left lane. Both drivers and all but a 5 year old boy in the minivan (the driver’s son) were killed. He is recovering in the hospital & expected to survive. A third car was involved in the accident, but the driver and the passenger survived. Continue reading “Taconic Tragedy & Scapegoating”
I thought about this some more and I realized I had a harder time letting go of my brother than I did with letting go of my mother. I’m thinking over the reasons for this. Part of it was the way she flat out told me she wasn’t going to change when I asked her to stop doing or saying certain things which were hurting me. That made it easier. Continue reading “My Brother’s Keeper Part 2”