This blog is about how I came to realize I was a scapegoat in my family of origin, how I’ve resigned as the scapegoat.  As well as how I’m working to heal and develop a healthy perspective.   Since my mother exhibits behaviors of both Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder, I sometimes address the impact of those conditions upon family members. 


This blog is NOT INTENDED for people who suffer from personality disorders.  I’m not denying that it’s painful for the people who suffer from them.  But this isn’t an appropriate resource for people with NPD or BPD.   In fact, reading about the anger and pain my mother’s personality disorder has caused me may be triggering for people with Personality Disorders.

6 thoughts on “About

  1. Thanks for this blog. I could use your exact “about” sentence to describe the last couple of years of my life. The pushback is phenomenal. So good to not feel so alone.

  2. I haven’t yet addressed this issue … oh, but i’m the goat in my family for sure. Everyone in my family has a serious problem: An anxiety disorder; clinical depression, full blown alcoholism. Me, i’ve spent my life battling each variety of eating disorders and HAVE conquered that and other addictions. STILL … STILL … i am the schmutz of the family. I’M considered the sick one … and it has now put the family in imbalance … and my brother HATES me now. I’ve released him … and i “deal” with my parents without engaging in their attempts to belittle me. Thanks for sharing you perspective. I will read more!

  3. Just curious, if any of your posts are about the friendships you’ve had in your life & if they had any of the traits we are all too familiar with from this abuse?

    1. I haven’t written any posts about that yet, but it’s an excellent topic. For the most part, I’ve been fortunate and have had better luck with friendships. In the few cases where there were problems, I didn’t react or notice as quickly as most people would have. But once I did, I was able to detach

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