I just came across this NY Times article about Facebook and estrangements, published back in June.
I’m guilty of occasionally Googling to see what I can find on my brother and his family. But I realize I’m the one with the power to do that and to stop it. It hurts so I don’t do it very often. But there are a number of people who blame others for this.
In 2005, they reconciled for six years, but the daughter, who is now married to that boyfriend and has a young child, again stopped speaking to her 10 months ago for reasons Mary does not understand. Mary, who joined Facebook in 2008, now squirms when she checks her news feed.
“You’re watching other people enjoying your daughter and the grandchild you’re supposed to have, and you’re left out in the cold,” Mary said. “I have to watch pictures of my grandson — that I didn’t get — on my daughter’s sister-in-law’s page.”
No, you don’t have to watch. You can use the block feature or defriend people.
Then there’s this comment in the comments section:
I think that those people who are not adjusting their privacy settings so as not to be “seen” know exactly what they’re doing. They WANT to be spied on. They are not as “done” with the person/people they are estranged from as they seem.
I personally keep most of my information to friends only on Facebook. But I think it says far more about the commenter than any of the people who keep their profiles public. I saw my niece’s photo on a social media account my sister-in-law had set up. I didn’t think it was directed at me, she just has a profile with her daughter’s photo. IMO, it takes a huge amount of narcissism to even think someone’s profile is directed to one. Unless there are very obvious comments which make it clear.