I actually thought I could relax this December as likely NPD/possibly BPD mother aka Batty Poo hasn’t attempted contact the previous 2 Decembers. The last contact we had was about 2 and a half years ago when she had surgery and I sent her get well wishes. This was about 2-3 weeks after the blow up with bro & SIL because I apparently didn’t offer sufficient maternal worship. Which she ignored, choosing to side with them.
I’m want to write a fuller post on this soon (it’s been crazy at work and while not as bad as last year, some holiday sadness), but wanted to provide a link to last year’s post with it’s resources for anyone who needs it. It’s got some good links to Kellevision & Narcissists Suck about taking care of yourself emotionally and setting boundaries during this season. Also added a couple of links to Dr. T’s site explaining why Cluster Bs are so difficult at this time of year.
I’ll try to at least check in to approve comments every few days, so feel free to start a conversation about the holidays and how they are affecting you this year in light of estrangements or difficulties. Or if you’ve managed to overcome it, coping strategies. And if you’re in between the two, like me, feel free to share that too! 🙂 Wishing everyone a joyous and peaceful holiday season!
Also, a couple of other great resources which have been written since then:
Dr. T, with her usual blend of humor and common sense, explains over at Shrink4Men why Cluster B people are so difficult at holidays, both in a blog post and she dedicated a radio show to it. But please note, the radio show is at a men’s rights site, which has a certain perspective/point of view. If you disagree with it, please skip it or at least be respectful of the hosting space. Thanks.