Happy Belated Birthday, we miss and love you. I really appreciate the fact that you were able to make amends with us and let us know how the thing you really regretted about your alcohol/substance abuse was its effect on your parenting with me and bro. You still managed to do ok and it means a lot to me that you took responsibility for it and acknowledged it to us. I know that wasn’t easy for you. But it’s really helped with healing and being able to move forward.
Btw, mom turned out to be even more of a piece of work than you could have imagined back in 1978. You’re familiar with her alcoholism, but I’ve since learned it’s likely she may have a personality disorder too. She stopped drinking which should have been a good thing, but it just meant she got more vicious, devious and sneaky about the way she goes after people because she’s not sloppy drunk/the alcohol doesn’t take the edge off. The split was tough on everyone, but it was definitely for the best.