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Archive for February, 2011

Blame and Scapegoating

Posted by whenthescapegoatquits on February 21, 2011

The article I referenced in my last post was really helpful for me because it helped me realized just how conditioned I am to accept blame/blame myself for things.     As well as how it’s a “flea” to feel like there even always has to be blame.  Sometimes, no one is to blame.  Or it’s just not very useful to get into blame.  It just makes more sense to fix the problem and move on.   Growing up with a parent who likely has a Personality Disorder,  everyone got sucked into the Blame Game.  The really twisted part is it prevented us from actually resolving the issue or problem at hand!  Read the rest of this entry »

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PDed People, Drama & Blame

Posted by whenthescapegoatquits on February 11, 2011

I came across a very interesting article on Personality Disorded people, drama & blame.

The only part I don’t agree with is this:

Whether we are aware of it or not, being raised in “drama” families determines the theme for the rest of our lives.

I like to think we can re-write the script.   Or at the very least, add a lot of  comedy to the drama! 🙂

I found the article  interesting because my mother has a tendency to assign blame and get angry over the simplest situations where blame and drama are uncalled for and completely unnecessary.  Read the rest of this entry »

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