Not suprisingly, I’ve been rehearsing in my head what I would say if my mother, brother or SIL called. Up until the last few weeks, it would have been an angry, profanity laced tirade. Now, I’m just picturing myself saying things in a calm voice. And that I’m making the choice not to be hurt or disrespected anymore.
I’m mostly through the anger. I forgive my mother, my brother & my SIL for their choice to scapegoat me. I just wish other family members, such as my great-Aunt, would stop bringing it up. First of all, the scapegoaters have made the choice not to contact me. If you’re going to try & pressure someone into resuming contact, it should be them, not me. They were the ones who chose to cut contact with me. Don’t get me wrong, my great-Aunt is a wonderful person, but I don’t think she grasps what has been said/done over the years. Continue reading “Forgiveness, etc.”